Do you have a friend who is getting involved in activities that are physically and/or morally unhealthy? If so, have you wondered how best to help that friend? Here's some good news: You are certainly not alone. You can be sure that there are others who are similarly concerned . . . and who also aren't sure what to do. So what course of action should you take in reaching out to that friend in need? First, it's always good to remember that none of us is perfect. It's always helpful to start by remembering the mote in our own eye. If nothing else, that provides a little perspective . . . as well as humility.
Second, remember the spiritual wisdom that we are called to hate the sin but love the sinner. In other words, continue to reach out to that friend even though you might disapprove of his or her activities. It is what the person is doing, not who the person is, that is at issue.
And thirdly, focus more on being the person you are called to be and less on trying to change the other. It is always good to remind ourselves that there is only one person we can change and that, of course, is ourselves.
How does this translate to practical application? Below are some specific ways to be and things to do when your friend is getting into unhealthy activities:
Being a friend of the errant friend is one of life's continuing challenges. Ultimately, how we be that friend when our friendship is most needed will say more about us than it does about the friend in need.